Today is National Suicide Prevention Day, a day very dear to my heart. I’ve known people who have taken their own lives, I know many who have attempted, and I myself, have come to that point of desperation and hopelessness. Sadly, though, many of us suffer with suicidality in silence. We fear that by reaching out, we will be stigmatized as “crazy,” “attention-seeking,” “weak.” The world still knows so little about the plague that is depression (and other mental illnesses) and as a result, many don’t recognize their struggles for being real, worthy of mentioning. They feel alone, misunderstood, afraid of the world and of themselves. Not only is a suicide tragic in itself, but I believe it is almost more tragic to consider how alone that person felt in the end, that he or she felt so isolated that even reaching out felt hopeless. In a world full of so many people struggling with the same (if not similar) problems, it is a tragedy that so many of us feel alone.
So today, let’s do our part in spreading that vital awareness of the threat that is suicide. Learn more about mental health. Educate your friends and family. Tell your loved ones on a daily basis how much they mean to you, how much you love them. And take time when you can, to listen to a stranger’s story, to smile at them, to make them feel heard and appreciated. And if it is you that is struggling, pay attention to those feelings, give yourself care and love. If you feel that you can’t, please reach out and let someone else give you that affection. Despite feeling alone in your suffering right now, I think you’ll be surprised how many people want to be there for you, want to listen, to care, to hold your hand. I agree that the world can be a lonely place, but I also believe that our minds can make it feel even more that way. We can convince ourselves that we’re invisible, worthless, unloveable. But in reaching out, we can prove those internal truths to be false.
I’m not going to say that life gets easier, because it doesn’t. You just get stronger. You may still feel at times, scared, lonely, sad, or even, hopeless. But the more time that you allow to pass, you’ll start to realize that those feelings will, too. Slowly, we can learn how to cope with those feelings. By reaching out, we bring more supports into our lives, so that we are no longer the only shoulders upon which the weight will rest. It takes time to build that strength and resilience. But you’re deserving of that time.
I came across this acronym a few months ago and sometimes, I recite it to myself over and over until it’s almost automatic. It’s taken me a while, but I believe I’m starting to believe in its truth:
Hold On, Pain Ends.
It does. I promise.
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