I think a lot of us have a fear of time. We fear it because it’s a factor of almost everything in our lives: age, maturity, career, education, investments, current events, relationships… mortality. Sometimes, it seems that time moves at a snail’s pace, our eyes fixed on the second-hand of the clock, waiting for it to pass so that we can move on to what’s next, to escape from the present moment, to move on to the future. At other times, it seems to fly past us, to pass through our fingers like sand or water as we try desperately to hang on to every last second. And sometimes, time passes us by without us even realizing its gone.
My fear of time, though ever-present in my life, has evolved.
For most of my life, I was daunted by how much of it I possessed. I feared how much was left, how much more of it I would have to endure. I was blind to the gift that was this life, the time I was wasting by not appreciating the present moment. In this phase of my life, I didn’t care. I wanted the clock to stop, I yearned for the last grain of sand to fall through the hourglass. I feared having to continue living… because I thought it meant that I had to prolong my misery. I never imagined that this fear could change.
Today, I no longer fear having too much time. I fear wasting it. I fear that I won’t be able to do enough with this life before my time runs out. But then… what is “enough”?
Lately, I’ve started to realize that no matter how much I fear it, I can’t control time. It will pass at its own pace and I will do the same. There’s no slowing it down, speeding it up… there’s no pressing “pause.” I’ve learned something from both of my fears. I’ve learned not to be afraid of having too much time, but instead, to appreciate that I have any. I have a future, I have opportunities and ambitions and I have the time to pursue them. I’ve also learned not to fear losing time or not having enough, because that fear and anxiety will only take up the time I have now. That time I spend afraid could instead be spent in gratitude, in peace and serenity.
So…what is the solution to our fears? How do we overcome our anxieties about time?
Maybe it’s to pretend it doesn’t exist.
Because in truth, we don’t know how much or how little time we do have… and as scary as that is, it’s reality. It’s life.
All we can do is live as if today is our last, but also to live as if there is no limit to the future.
Time is not guaranteed, but that doesn’t mean we should give up on living.
Even if all we have is this moment, we do have this moment. And maybe, that’s all that really matters.