My mind is constantly full of thoughts. These days, I’ve started to give them labels: “old” and “new” or “sick” and “healthy.” Those that used to startle me and at times, lead me to self-destruction, have started to soften and to fade into the background. I still hear them almost continuously, louder at times than others, but mostly they buzz in my eardrums like white noise. They’ve lost their salience, their power.
I’ve often related my thoughts to a symphony, notes being spat at each other from opposing sides of the orchestra. The music has always been far from pleasant. It’s always been a cacophony of harsh and dissonant sounds, sort of like the phantom’s composition in Weber’s Phantom of the Opera. My thoughts were the kind of music that you hated listening to, it made your stomach churn and your heart race, but at the same time, you couldn’t tear your attention away from it. It was painfully intoxicating.
The symphony continues on inside my mind today, but it’s different. It’s almost as if the musicians have grown in their skill as I have grown in age and maturity. The instruments are tuned almost perfectly, notes are played carefully and with greater precision. The sound has grown more sophisticated, more solid and controlled. The melody has changed, too. There are fewer peaks and troughs, fewer drastic crescendos and decrescendos. Rather than the chaotic and unpredictable mess that was the music of my mind for so long… my thoughts have grown calmer, peaceful.
For most of life, I gave the solo performances to the thoughts that hurt me. I let the continuous self-criticism and verbal abuse take the lead in the symphony, overpowering everything else. It screamed inside my head until I begged for the song to be over. For it all to be over.
But today… that voice has grown soft. It plays at a pianissimo volume. Sometimes, it’s only a whisper. The absence of these harmful thoughts has allowed me to hear what was hiding beneath the ruckus, the chaos. Sweet sounds of joy, gratitude, passion, hope. I used to think that because all I could hear inside myself was pain and self-loathing, that I wasn’t capable of anything else, anything good. I believed that I contained nothing more than darkness.
But I was wrong.
There is more.
I can listen to my thoughts today and not be guarded. I can appreciate the delicate trills of excitement, the low cello-like moans of gratitude, the soft whistle of hope. I’m still learning, practicing and growing used to this new piece. It still feels sometimes as if I’m only sight-reading, playing the song for the first time. But day by day, it grows stronger.
…and this time, I won’t stop listening.